Clearly, January was a trial month. No it wasn’t. Maybe a bit. But anyway, here we are. I personally feel the word resolutions is about things I am going to change. Which obviously I plan to, I mean there are things I would like to change this year. But that is not the point or what I am going to dwell on this year. This year is about my intentions, the things I plan to do, to strive towards and to be better at. Is that the same as resolutions, someone let me know in the comments.
First, let’s address the elephant in the room. My last post was in November 2016. Wow! Where have I been over the last year? Truly, under a rock. Metaphorically evidently. But to be honest, 2017 was like a black hole. I don’t need to go into specifics but I am back now. And as we get into my intentions of the year, I would like to be here more often. I love writing. I studied journalism and was going to become this big writer. And I feel blessed to have pursued that with this space, About September.
We all have these resolutions/intentions every year – go to the gym, travel, smile more, be kind – but as time passes, they become like one of those tasks on your to-do list that you just forget. Next thing you know, it has slipped to the bottom of the list and finally fallen off to be remembered at the beginning of next year. As in! I am not judging, it has happened to all of us. Last year, my resolution was “TO BE BETTER.” One task! Throughout everything I did, I asked myself, is this me being better? But better than what? The task I had just completed? My previous self? There was a whole lot of grey area that allowed me to cheat my own system, LOL. So, here we are, my intentions for 2018:
Be more present
Many times we are rushing to the next thing. I will speak for myself. It’s always about the next job, the next plan, the next whatever, that I am not in the moment to enjoy the good and bad of the situation. I feel that by doing so, I will be able to take in more experiences and lessons that will help me deal with the next whatever I am chasing. Does that make sense? If not, hopefully, this drives the point home.
“Being fully present in every moment is the greatest meditation I have found. It’s a prayer of praise to appreciate the now — and the best way I know to create a sense of well-being.” – Oprah Winfrey, May 2015
Be a person of my word
If I say it will be complete by Monday best believe I will stay up the whole of Sunday night to deliver. If I signed up for the gym (which I have, by the way, a whole annual pass…eekk) best believe I am going to make it a routine to go to the gym. If I say I will call/keep in touch…haha #ifyouknowyouknow, best believe that is what’s happening. If I say I am going to have 3 posts out every week with meaningful content, not some half-assed work, it’s happening.
Be more open
If there is one lesson I took from 2017 is that I cannot afford to be reserved and shy anymore. I mean, yes that is my personality & I take a while to warm up & for people to warm up to me BUT I think those who voice their opinions, say what they mean unapologetically from the get-go seize all the opportunities. There is so much value in networking, speaking on what I believe in and I would unquestionably like to fake it till I make it this year. Not sure about the small talk, baby steps people! Being more open is also about the challenges, opportunities that come my way this year, which leads us back to being more present.
Be my best self
I think this is an upgrade from last year but also sums up the above. I was recently thinking about life and just having a conversation with myself & I suddenly felt surprised at how I was reasoning. Literally, I stopped my train of thought to ponder on whether this was now, me experiencing adulthood. LOL. At the end of the day, I want to have the best career, make a name for myself, live a healthy drama free lifestyle. The question I will be asking myself throughout the year is, “Is this the best I can be/do?”
So there we have it, my four intentions of 2018. I believe these will be the foundation for whatever comes my way or that I decide to tackle. I am sure many of you have set out some resolutions (or maybe haven’t), as you begin this new month, go over them and ask the hard questions. How am I going to achieve X, what is the foundation for my resolutions? Let me know your thoughts on intentions vs resolutions. Are they the same/different/irrelevant? Also, if you are back reading this after my year of absence, you are a star. Comment, DM me, Tweet me, Snap me so I know you were here. Peace & love. x